We have all had those days where we wake up on the right side of the bed only to be steam rolled by someone spewing the sorrows of their cursed life. We offer some ideas to remedy the situation and help stop the bleeding but we quickly realize they want pity not answers. In our fast paced information age life, it may be difficult to find a shoulder to lean on in times of distress. I am not referring to these honest situations of need. I’m talking about the Chronic Compulsive Complainers. The ones who almost welcome their hardships so they have another story to tell to an unsuspecting ear. We may not stop a stranger in the grocery store but we will certainly use our social networking sites to update the status filled with our own constant negative news.
Through our L.I.F.E. subscription this month we received, How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People by Les Giblin. This is one of the best books I’ve read on interacting with people. This book is about having self confidence and power over yourself. The following paragraphs jumped off the page at me.
The person who falls into the habit of always talking pessimistically, of pointing out the world is going to the dogs, or of relating all his personal troubles, isn’t going to win any popularity contests.
If you have personal troubles that you need to talk over with someone, go to your pastor, your psychologist, or some trusted and sympathetic friend. But don’t air your troubles in public.
Telling about how much you suffered wont make you a hero. It will only make you a bore.
What Then Should We Do?
There is a time for sharing the dark trials of our life but we are commanded to be the Light of the world.
You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden.~ Matthew 5:14
How can we be the Light when we bring down everyone who has the misfortune of coming into contact with us? Like the old saying goes, There are two types of people. Those who brighten a room when they arrive and those when they leave.
Rather, let us remember
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. ~ Philippians 4:8
It is a contradiction for a Christian who professes to be a child of the one and only God- who created the universe and who governs it for His glory and the good of His people- to wear a gloomy countenance.
So, lift your head, stand up tall and smile! Take your eyes off yourself and focus on who you can show love to. You may very well find out your life isn’t so bad after all.