I just had to reblog this..
I’m standing alone. My surroundings are dark. I look down to notice a laptop falling from my hands. Time seems to slow down. All I can think is, “Catch it! Don’t let hit hit the ground!”. Just before it hits the ground a loud buzzer goes off. As if to signify, “Game over”. The noise is so effective in startling me that it shakes me from my deep sleep. It was a dream tied to my reality, some how, some way. I lay there realizing its 5:30am.. my alarm has gone off.. time get up. I ask myself “Why am I doing this?”. The answer returns from the echoes of my mind, “Money. Its Money. If you didn’t need the money, you would still be asleep.”.
What would be so motivating to cause me to be up before the sun? What causes people to leave their loved ones behind for…
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Do you know why you do what you do? Maybe you look at some else and wonder “Why Can’t I be like them?” I used to think that people who acted opposite of me were some how off. Have you ever thought that way? I was frustrated with people so consequently I had very few friends. I labeled it as, “Well, I’m not a people person”. Its like the girl who doesn’t know how to dance so she curses the music. People who don’t know how to get along with people tend to curse the person. In reality its our own lack of understanding that gets us the results in life. One of the most LIFE changing books for me was Personality Plus by Florence Littauer. This amazing little book goes into detail about four basic personalities. The Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic and Sanguine. Most people have two personality traits, one of those being dominate. For example, someone may be considered a Choleric Sanguine or maybe a Melancholy Phlegmatic. So what personality are you?
A Choleric is someone who is “always” right but often wrong (although they will never admit it). They are usually in management or running companies. They thrive off giving orders and being in charge. They can be forceful and argumentative because, after all, they are right. They get things done although there may be a wake of destruction in their path.
Melancholy is someone who pays attention to details. They are the ones who straighten out picture frames at other people’s houses. They thrive off order. Their clothes and appearance is usually very neat. They can tend to judge others and they also struggle with times of depression. They are sometimes the doctors and engineers.
The Phlegmatic is a quiet soul. They are calm and collected. They thrive off being appreciated for their actions although their actions often go unnoticed. They hate conflict and will avoid it at all costs. They resent being yelled at because after all they would never treat someone like that. They are witty but it takes time for them to “warm up” and in that time they may be thought of as boring. They are very loyal.
The Sanguine is the life of the party. They tend to dress in loud colors and want to be apart of everything. They love to tell their story and they thrive off a captive audience. For them all of life is fun! They tend to over commit and often forget where they parked. They are bubbly and fun loving. Everyone is their “best” friend.
Im sure you have identified with one or more of these. Most people tend towards two of these.. For example, a Choleric Melancholy may be very competitive and detailed making them a formidable opponent however if they start losing they will quickly reason how its not their fault. All these personalities, working together, make society go round. The key is not to label others but to understand yourself in how you relate to others. Learn to Dance and enjoy the music!
I highly recommended picking up a copy of Personality Plus.
“Know Thyself” ~ Socrates
Matthew 7:14 NKJV
Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.
In the world of Elephants the herds are ruled by a matriarch. An experienced mature female will be responsible for moving the herd from feeding grounds, to water sources, to resting places. The herds are comprised of the Matriarch, females of various ages and young males. The teenage males and the mature bull elephants live away from the herd in a solitary life or in small
bands. They will join the herds at breeding time. There is a crucial time for the proper development of the young males. When the time arrives for them to leave the herd they will join up with a bull elephant. During the years, they will learn and develope into the powerful poised majestic bull elephant they should be. There is a story related from author Richard Rohr describing the importance of life mentors.
In Africa, many of the elephant herds have been protected in game preserves. Once a population has grown too large for the area, several individuals may be chosen for relocation. There were several juvenile male elephants in one of the preserves. As they hit sexual maturity, with their hormones raging, they did not have the crucial role model of what a bull elephant should be. They turned their strength and frustration into destructive behavior. The started turning on the smaller rhinos and hippopotamus by bullying them around till they eventually killed several individuals. The game wardens became very concerned over the violence and destruction this rogue band of young elephants were causing. They did not want to kill the elephants but something had to be done. Finally it was suggested to fly in mature male bull elephants to return order to the preserve. Three large bull elephants were brought into the park. The bulls did not use their massive bulk or enormous strength to set things straight rather they used their experience and poise to display how a real bull elephant should behave. The juveniles quickly fell into place and followed the example of the bulls. The park was returned to order by the quiet example of what strength under control truly is.
In our current times the typical model of industrial work schedules has removed the fathers and male role models from the homes for eight to ten to twelve hours a day. And with what is shown to be an acceptable and encouraged modern day male, father’s spend the few hours they have indulging in selfish “I deserve it cause I work” attitude. They neglect the duty bestowed upon them to display what a true man is. Consequently, our young men are raising themselves into destructive behaviors. What we need our more elephants!
I highly recommend reading Bringing up Boys to get a proper perspective to raising our boys into men. Lets not forget our boys. Men, lets be real men, put our selfish desires aside and invest into our future generations. Study the great men of the past, grow ourselves, point to the truth and mentor. Lead with experience and poise, with strength under control.
Adrian De Leon